Grief generally refers to the intense emotional distress associated with the death of a partner, a family member, a close friend or even a pet. But grief, in a more general sense, relates to loss that cannot be restored; it may occur following the failure of a relationship, the dissolution of a friendship or even the loss of a beloved job.
The sadness may be incapacitating for some and mild for others; in most cases grief tends to wax and wane but emotion intense enough to trigger grief never completely resolves. Counseling may be helpful (or even essential) in some cases and focusing on the positive aspects of the relationship (lessons learned, encouragement received, joy experienced and traits instilled) is always beneficial. Of course, the support of others, especially trusted family and friends, is especially important.
On the other hand, dwelling on conflicts, regrets and feelings of guilt only worsen the grief. We are imperfect beings and loss often heightens our awareness of that fact. Acknowledging our personal faults while celebrating the love, insight and influence of those we have lost will ease the burden of grief.
